Just Stop Picking Losers!

The Rapid Advance Process for Attracing Loving Relationship

High Conflict Institute Press
Vicki Carpel Miller, Ellie Izzo
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This book is a guide to help you understand your role in picking the right person in order to have a good relationship. Bad relationships and lonely nights can be a thing of the past. Vicki and Ellie teach you through the Rapid Advance Process to use your thoughts to break the old and develop new paths to happy relationships.

Contributor Bio

VICKI CARPEL MILLER, BSN, RN, LMFT, is co-founder and a core trainer of Collaborative Divorce Team Trainings, Collaborative Divorce Institute, and the Vicarious Trauma Institute, introducing the Rapid Advance Process for building higher thinking skills.

She is an internationally recognized presenter and trainer in the field of Collaborative Practice, training family lawyers, licensed mental health and financial professionals world-wide in the Collaborative Divorce Full Interdisciplinary Team Model of Collaborative Practice with Collaborative Divorce Team Trainings and Collaborative Divorce Institute.

Vicki is co-founder and past President of the Collaborative Divorce Professionals of Arizona and functions as a Divorce Coach, Child Specialist and/or Case Manager in Collaborative Divorce files. She is a member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (IACP), a Clinical Member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC), and an Advanced Practitioner Member of the Association for Conflict Resolution (ACR ).

Vicki has received advanced training in family mediation, narrative mediation, interest-based negotiation, Collaborative Law and Collaborative Divorce Interdisciplinary Team Practice. She is co-director of Arizona Collaborative Coaching Services, the Collaborative Divorce Institute and the Vicarious Trauma Institute. She is located in Scottsdale, Arizona.


ELLIE IZZO, Ph.D., L.P.C.,is a Licensed Professional Counselor and has been in clinical practice since 1982. Dr. Izzo developed the Rapid Advance Process, a standardized five step model for building neural pathways to higher thinking which was originally presented at the American Counseling Association convention in Atlanta in 1997 and again in Honolulu in 2008. The Rapid Advance Process is now widely used to alleviate trauma and stress.

Ellie also serves as a Trainer, Divorce Coach, Child Specialist and/or Team Manager in the process of Collaborative Divorce, whereby a team of professionals help a couple move through divorce respectfully, without litigating. She is co-director of the Collaborative Divorce Institute and the Vicarious Trauma Institute.

Ellie presents for numerous conferences and conventions. She hosted a call-in radio show in Phoenix and served as Self-Help Editor for a nationally syndicated trade magazine.

Ellie is a member of the American Psychological Association, the American Counseling Association, the American Mental Health Counselors Association, International Academy of Collaborative Professionals and Collaborative Divorce Professionals of Arizona (Board Member-At-Large). Ellie is co-director of Arizona Collaborative Coaching Services, Vicarious Trauma Institute and the Collaborative Divorce Institute. Her offices are located in Scottsdale, Arizona.